Throughout our childhood we’re constantly asked what job we want to do when we grow up. We have to pick one thing we’re going to do from the time we finish school or university and that’s it until we retire. No-one asks what sort of person we want to become or what exciting experiences we’d love to have.
We don’t seem to have moved on from the mindset that once you get a job it’s yours for life, even though we all know that’s not the case anymore.
After a PR degree, a few years in PR and then over 5 years working as a Wedding and Event planner I thought if I was going to work for myself that it would have to be in one of those areas.
I knew I wanted to be my own boss but I had no idea how to go about it and I definitely didn’t have the right mindset. I had a complete fear of being visible, of voicing an opinion, of being different to everyone who didn’t work for themselves.
I decided I was going to set up as a Wedding planner focusing on how to help Brides be less stressed when planning their weddings. I didn’t realise at the time how much the focus for me was on the mindfulness and stress and anxiety reduction rather than the planning.
By this point I was on maternity leave and so I spent a lot of time when I wasn’t baby wrangling learning about online business. Up until then it had been a complete mystery to me. I enrolled in a few courses and started slowly putting a website together. At the same time I was working on my mindset. I was learning about limiting beliefs and how they can subconsciously hold you back from achieving your full potential.
My life had moved on, I wasn’t completely immersed in hotels, menu’s, seating plans & colour schemes. My life was more nappies, sleepless nights, baby groups and new mums.
It took me a while to realise that it wasn’t really the wedding planning that I was passionate about. It was on reducing stress and anxiety and identifying why they happen. On how to deal with and move on from limiting beliefs.
While pregnant with my second baby I had been learning EFT for myself 1:1 with a brilliant practitioner. It was only then that I felt comfortable with the fact that I wanted something different to what I’d been sold as my options when I was in school.
It’s ok to change direction whatever you’re doing, its OK to make a different choice.